When you cannot seem to reach your partner

An Open Letter to My Partner

To my partner,

I need you to hear me.

I am writing this note to you because I cannot seem to be able to communicate my needs in a way you have been able to hear and respond to. I want to make this effort now, while there is still time, while there is still love, while there is still motivation to work on us. I need you to take my words seriously because I mean them very seriously.

We are at a place now where we must make changes if our relationship is to survive. Things have happened, emotions have happened, life has happened, and somehow what we have together is suffering. I am feeling alone in this relationship. I am feeling as though I am not important to you. I want to be important to you; I want to matter to you. I want to be extra special to you. Do you feel these same things?

I want us to be in love, be a couple, be a team and be together. I want to be happy and joyous with you. Somehow we have lost this and I want it back. I am willing to work hard on our relationship and be these things for you. Are you willing to do the same for me? I don’t know what this all might look like, but I do know we cannot continue like it has been.

I invite you to join me in working hard on our relationship and reaching a place of love and joy that I believe we can. If we cannot do this, I fear that my feelings may die, I will become detached and I will lose hope. Will you join me in fighting to change our relationship, to make it extra special? Will you commit to working with me to make sure we transform what has been, into what we both know we can have together. I need you to hear my words and know that now is the time.

I Love You.

Relationships & Marriage Counseling

An Open Letter to My Partner