Relationships & Marriage Counseling
40 Lake Bellevue, Ste. 100
Bellevue, WA 98005
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therapists do marriage perfectly?Marlon and Leah's Marital Blog
How does a marriage counselor and parent coach do in their own relationship?
From Marlon: So here we are, working on the front lines of relationships. For me, I absolutely love it. I've found my calling. That doesn't mean it's easy for me though. I have an insecure attachment that is now more of an earned secure attachment. What this means is that Leah has had to go through years of my own anxious reactivity while I worked on my own stuff. She's stuck it out though. Thank you Leah.
As I work with couples, I realize how much I share their issues. I often find myself asking, "How do we do with this issue?" "How did Leah and I handle this?" I know that when emotions start flying, tools and skills go out the window. Yet, we do well together. Why is that? I hope by reading our blog, you'll get some answers that help you in your efforts to love and be loved. For me, it's all about attachment with each other. So that will be the theme woven through our thoughts as we give you a peek into what it's like for two marriage and family therapists to be in a relationship.
From Leah: selfish, self sacrificing, selfless – that is what my poor husband has to witness all the time as I struggle, squirm and strive for balance between the self and the other. Yet even with all this sacrifice going on, I never quite get it right. Someone or something needs more and truly deserves more of my attention. I want to give more.
Then, I quietly and silently hope that someone will just give me my time back. Can’t they see I need it? I can’t just stand up and demand time for myself because that would be - --selfish. Oops my mantra slipped – selfish is self care, selfish is self care.
So for me this blog is celebrating those fleeting moments of life’s delicious balance and catastrophic moments of imbalance and how these are managed within our marriage.
Thanks for visiting. Here we go.