Relationships & Marriage Counseling
1601 116th Ave NE, Ste. 102
Bellevue, WA 98004
425-417-4700
Couples thinking about divorce, still have options.
Divorce Counseling
Stay Friends. Stay Parents.
Are you ready to divorce your partner because you do not want to be with them any longer?
Or, has the negative cycle, the way you communicate and relate, become unbearable?
Gottman can accurately predict whether or not couples will divorce 87%
of the time. However, that is based on the negative cycle
occurring
without interruption. What if there was a way to
break that negative cycle and replace it with a positively based
one? Would you still want to work on the relationship with
your partner? It takes two to play tennis, so if you and your
partner are still willing to engage, then tools from Gottman and
EFT couples therapy may still pull you together. The
success rates when couples engage are high, 90% report
significant improvements. If you are going to engage in
therapy, those are pretty good odds. Better still,
research also shows that relapse rates very low, even after two
years.
"When I first spoke to Marlon and learned how important is was for our son's long term health and welfare that we deal with the conflict still around after our divorce, I knew this was wise. Even through some intense conversations in session, Marlon hung in there and helped us find a way to stay focused on being good parents, even when our relationship was over.
-M & G, Bellevue
On
the other hand, if one partner is no longer interested in working on the
relationship and has put their tennis racquet down and walked
off the court, then divorce therapy is often very beneficial,
emotionally and financially.
It is possible to dismantle the formal relationship or marriage
and still maintain a workable relationship. A non or low
conflict relationship between ex spouses is
absolutely critical, researched and proven to be beneficial for the well being and future health of any
children involved. It is possible to get to a place of working
together as parents even though the marriage or relationship is
over. Emotionally Focused Therapy is effective at this approach.
Schedule a risk free appointment today; if either of us believe that we are not a good fit, there will be no charge for the session.
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Different Types of Divorce Related Counseling
The process of divorce oriented therapy acknowledges the current decision on the table and deals with the deeper emotions of hurt, anger, fear, resentment and even contempt in one or both partners. If splitting up becomes the decision, then getting to a place where you can negotiate from a place of love for yourself and your future is a whole lot better than from a place of fear.
Decision Counseling
When splitting up seems like the only alternative. When one or both are contemplating divorce. This type of therapy is not about convincing someone to stay in the relationship, rather it is about looking at the landscape and being clear about the decision to divorce or not. From here, couples usually move to couples therapy or to divorce therapy.
De-escalation Counseling
When your relationship is highly volatile, you can unnecessarily and easily spend tens of thousands of extra dollars during the divorce process believing you're going to "get the other person back." This type of therapy acknowledges the communication challenges, often stemming from anger, resentment or other difficult emotions in the relationship. The work is around getting both sides to a place of negotiating the end of the relationship with everyone's health and future in mind, including any children.
Divorce Counseling
When you have a desire or need to maintain a workable relationship during and after the divorce. If there are children, then goal is to dismantle the formal spousal relationship and create a new and workable parenting relationship.
All these types of divorce counseling are available at Collaborative Couples & Family Counseling, LLC.
Not wanting divorce therapy but need a place to go and work through specific issues around a divorce? Perhaps relationship mediation can help.