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Today's
Creating Secure Love tip is all about being good at reconnecting Greet Everyone Like Your Dog
Leah Koenig, Parent Coach and idea person
How do you feel when you walk through the door at the end
of the day? Some days are better than others but those moments
of re-connecting at the end of the day are so important to how the
rest of the evening goes.
I’m well versed at telling parents at my school to greet
their children first and then come and talk to me. I’ll remind
parents to finish cell phone calls before picking up their children
so they are free to greet their children. Yet how do I
personally live this great advice?
It is really hard for me to walk in the door and expect
everyone to put their activities aside to look up and greet me.
Yet if they do, I feel so incredibly special and on top of the
world. That is a great start to the evening. If my husband
walks in the door with the busyness of the day still rolling through
his head and walks into his office and towards the mail, kerplunk; I
feel dismissed.
I noticed the other day that the small act of re-connection
can melt away a day of hurts. If, for example, Marlon and I
have not connected well through the day and I am not particularly
looking forward to seeing him, that greeting can dramatically shift
my mood. If I come in the door and he hugs me hello, all the
anger of the day truly evaporates. I feel special and welcomed
back home.
A few ideas:
Use commuting time to finish thinking about work and then
shift your thoughts to home.
Change clothes when you get home so you can literally take
off the work day. For emotional days or emotional jobs
showering is often recommended to clear the energy.
If you need a break to transition into home life, let
others know so you can establish a small routine for yourself that
will be understood by the family.
Once again my learning as always; ask for what you want. Obviously if I am greeted well, and have that moment of re-connection, everyone in my family’s evening has a chance of going so much better.