Today's Creating Secure Love tip:

Don't Wait Until It's Too Late!

Marlon Familton - Marriage Counselor and racing coach

Everyday I wonder who might be out in the world, reeling from the emotional pain of a struggling relationship and somehow finding my site. I see the stats and know there are plenty, yet who will call me next? Who might dial the phone or book an appointment and with tears ask to see me? "This is sort of the last ditch effort", they say.

My heart aches for a moment and yet, one thing I learned from Dr. Tim Webber, PhD is, "Never close the tomb on someone." And so I think to myself, they are calling me... there is hope.

And truly I believe this. The moment I fail to see hope; the moment I start to write off a couple right away is the moment I know I am no longer deserving of this work. And yet, sometimes it is too late...

Two Important Suggestions

What bit of advice would I want to pass on to partners in difficult a relationship? I have two suggestions: 1. Don't wait to seek help. And, 2. Don't wait to seek help.

Now sure, technically that is but one single suggestion repeated. Yet it is so important it's worth mentioning twice.

If you are fighting with your partner a lot, if you feel distant, if things don't seem as easy as they used to be, there are probably messages abound. They might not be verbalizing it clearly for you, but they might be screaming with their actions. Or perhaps you are. Either way, the longer you wait to seek help of some sort, (sure I'll advocate for counseling here), the further down the hole you might be.

Don't ignore important feedback. "Get it" sooner rather than later and get help now.

Relationships & Marriage Counseling

Don't Wait Until It's Too Late!

Two Important Suggestions